When the Phone Rules All (video)

Monday, August 26, 2013 - 8:30am
When the Phone Rules All (video)

A video that serves as a humorous indictment of our addiction to technology and lack of connection with others.

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Trent Gilliss (@TrentGilliss),  Executive Editor / Chief Content Officer for On Being
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This video is funny... only because it's true. I'm watching this and thinking of Sherry Turkle's observation that adults are much more susceptible to technology's lure than children today:

"I believe that there are some places that, in the car, it's reasonable to say, 'Hey, I'm going back to my friends. I want to tell them I'm coming.' Every place you are with your children, you can't say is a sacred space. That doesn't fly. But I think that, for families as they grow up, I do feel strongly about this because really this dinner table thing has been such a theme in my research, such a theme as teenagers look back on their lives and what they miss. It's teenagers who say, 'My parents text at the dinner table.'

There's a story in my book: This young man has a mother who is a gourmet cook. So her pleasure is in making these long, long, many-course meals and that's how she shows her love for her family. And she's married to a kind of master of the universe, kind of Wall Street-type guy, and he's on his BlackBerry all through dinner. And their son starts to try to negotiate with the mother: Could she prepare shorter meals so that then maybe the father would put away the BlackBerry? But he's not going to do it if it's a four-course meal. But maybe he would do it if it was basically just soup and salad, or maybe he would do it if it was just salad and a grilled steak. You know, you see a teenager trying to negotiate some way to get this BlackBerry out of the dinner table, and it's touching."

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Trent Gilliss is the driving editorial and creative force behind On Being. He received a Peabody Award in 2007 for his work on "The Ecstatic Faith of Rumi" and garnered two Webby Awards (in 2005, and again in 2008). The Online News Association nominated his journalistic work multiple times in the general excellence and outstanding specialty journalism categories. Trent's reported and produced stories from Turkey to rural Alabama, from Israel and the West Bank to Cambridge, England.

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Just wait till technologies like Google Glass become ubiquitous. This video will not be an exaggeration....

I got it! I never lost it. but I'm feeling so alone because I'm a technophobe and refuse to become a slave to the machine.
Eye contact is to intimate.......and food for the soul. Everyone's "connected" but sadder than ever. What good is having 1000 fb acquaintances but few friends?

Please, this stuff is so old. Back in the day it was radio, people listened and did not talk, then TV, then video games, then the computer, now its the phone. One last thing, when teachers gave the kids a slate, they thought the same thing. We are OK, we're evolving. I wish journalism would do the same, instead of being boring.

I'm not sure exactly how this piece of journalism is boring. It's challenging us to consider a very real issue in society. And, yes, we may be evolving, but is it for the better or worse?! We can control what controls us. Science has proven that being constantly plugged into your device is highly addicting. I don't know about you but I rather be my own master than have some little device that I have to constantly be checking. I work in a library and I can't tell how many times I see kids trying to engage their adults in creative play and all the dismissive parents or nannies want to do is check their latest Facebook feed! Ugh! Sad.....

Dear Friend - it's not the same. If you've done any research in regard to human communication you would know that; much of communication is non-verbal. We are too far out of touch with one another. To not see a face or hear a voice all day long... that's a form of starvation. We need intimacy. I'm not referring to romance so please, don't get me wrong. Just hearing a voice over the phone. Even that is so much better than texting an entire conversation.

This was described as humorous or funny...all it made me want to do is cry!

As a commercial and news paper photographer I live my life in pictures. On my time. I just chill and soak it in. If someone (usually my mother-in-law) asks me to take pictures of something, I jokingly say, "I'm off-duty" or, "That'll be 350-bucks!" Then someone else takes the picture because I just made a sardonic comment. Freeeeedom... I'm getting off the computer now to hug my kids.

Such is human nature. The difference today is blame is simplistic and unified: it's that dad burn smartphone! The old skool distractions and escapes of daydreaming, book reading, doodling, dosing off, drugs or staring out the window while in the company of boring folk was no less prevalent. Nevertheless I dislike smartphone photography--not because of lost moments or social disconnection, we've been doing that since the dawn of time--but because smartphones have lowered visual standards and cheapened the art of photography.

The most funny about all this, is how paradoxal this video is... As it has been probably made vis an Iphone... ^^

Wow lots of people in here justifying their lives where they are clearly addicted to their phones. If people think daydreaming is equivalent to staring at your phone in social situations you have a bigger problem than you realize.


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