The notion of contemplating mortality can be an abstract one for those of us not facing death. It can be waxed about in highly romanticized language, such as in a Wallace Stevens poem, or shown on television in the most inhuman ways, leaving us cold and unmoved.
While editing this week's show on facing and contemplating reality, I suggested we ground our interview with Dr. Ira Byock, a leading figure in palliative and hospice care, with other people's voices from StoryCorps. Their words, their stories, I hoped, would take Dr. Byock's clinical experiences and complement the doctor's ideas about dying well with the necessary pathos of those families facing death.
To close the hour, we included audio of Annie and Danny Perasa, a couple from Brooklyn, New York. They had been married for 27 years when Danny was diagnosed with a fast-spreading, painful form of terminal cancer. It's a love story illustrating that the process of dying is not only a medical event, but a personal one in which “eloquence, grace, and poetry” can still be found. Danny passed away on February 24, 2006.
As a result, we've heard from so many listeners asking to hear this audio again. Here's a wonderful animation extending the story you heard on the radio.