Keith Yamashita, from “The Apple Effect” in Saturday’s Christian Science Monitor

How should we be “the most extreme version of ourselves” in our own work lives? If more of us lived out this philosophy on the job and perhaps in our personal lives, would we be better off for it? I’m thinking, “Yes!” (within reason, of course). *grin*

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If being "the most extreme version of ourselves means "reaching out to the limits of our capacities, to others  and to God", the "ideal reaction to the void" which leads to self-realization, "we [would] be better off" than we are, trying to fill the void which is leading us to self-destruction.

I believe in self-actualization as a means to happiness, not as an end unto itself. The peace, joy, and love for self and others that results from true happiness is the goal. Focusing on "extreme" self-actualization would be problematic if the motives were questionable. Extreme Apple seems to have worked out well, but extreme Enron? Extreme Barry Bonds? Extreme Martha Stewart? Extreme Bernie Madoff? Will the world be better if we all take steroids? Engage in insider trading? Drive faster? Work harder? As a cancer survivor I know what happens when cell growth gets extreme. I am convinced that super-sizing myself would be a mistake. As a disciple of Christ, I'd rather attempt to develop along the lines of a better example. 

This is a most intriguing concept that resonates with me. I'm pondering how this is so for me as spiritual leader of a growing and diverse faith community that is seeking to discern its place in the small college community in which we are situated. I'm seeking to balance "being the most extreme version of ourselves," with the missional call to seek what God is up to in our context and becoming available.
Bill Daylong

I have a friend who has a big personality. She told me a few years ago that men don't like her, and that in order to attract a man, she needed to learn to be different. I told her this: No! Being less of ourselves is never the answer. Be more you. Be more Pam-ish! Be more like yourself. Always!" She started a business and married afterwards - being more Pam-ish than ever.

I think that Dbdoane has made a really good point. What is the extreme version of ourselves? Is it the best of  humanity or the worst? And how will we know if we never pursue it? Can you pick and choose from the attributes you pursue of your self-actualized extreme self? Or is that part of the journey--to discover it, and if you don't like what you see, then change? Interesting proposition...and for some of us maybe it's risky.

I think, like all things, there's a time for the "extreme" version of ourselves, but there's also a time for the subtle, restrained version. Wisdom is in knowing how much, if any, restraint is called for in a given moment.