“Now men can have it all — a successful career and being a responsible daddy.”
—Birgitta Ohlsson, Sweden’s Minister of EU-Affairs and a mother-to-be

1970s Swedish Paternity Leave ad featuring weightlifter Hoa-Hoa DahlgrenIn Sweden, state financial incentives are changing the face of modern fatherhood. According to the International Herald Tribune, Swedish families receive 13 months of government-subsidized parental leave. Dads get two months and so do moms. Parents can divide up the remainder however they choose. But here’s the kicker: if fathers don’t avail themselves of their “daddy leave,” then the family loses out on a month of paid subsidy.

Apparently in Sweden, daddy day care is the new normal. It’s an interesting example of social policy influencing human behavior and perceptions of masculinity. According to data from the Swedish Social Security office, Swedish fathers whose children were born in 2002 used an average of 84 days of paid paternity leave. That’s an increase from 57 days taken in 1999.

How does Sweden’s policies compare to other countries around the globe? For one perspective, check out these global parental leave maps created with Wikipedia data by an American dad/blogger living in Sweden (while on his daddy leave no less).

As I observe so many of my friends and colleagues grappling with work-life balance, it’s interesting to learn how other countries and cultures are approaching these parenting challenges, and how notions of what it means to be a man are shifting in the process. I’m also reminded of a story about what gets lost when fathers stay at the sidelines of child rearing from our show with Rabbi Sandy Sasso:

I remember a father telling me that he doesn’t usually read to his children at night, that his wife did, the mother did. But one night, he read, and he decided to read this book. And he decided to leave out the questions, because he felt that would take too long and it would be too long a bedtime ritual…And the child stopped him in the middle and said, ‘No, Dad, ask the questions. Ask the questions. I want to talk.’ What she wanted to do is have a conversation in this quiet time when nothing else was intruding on their lives.”

In the image above, Swedish weightlifter Hoa-Hoa Dahlgren featured in a 1970s ad produced by Försäkringskassan — the Swedish Social Insurance Agency — to encourage fathers to participate in paid paternity leave. (photo: Reio Rüster)


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Lovely to view! Yes--give our dads, our babies and our moms more daddy leave too!
Build a safety net for our society--help parents build a good relationship with their babies, and support children to grow up with a feeling of security--surrounded by this love.

Taxes? Cost to corporations? Pay now, or pay later--sounds so crass! But--how would you rather spend your money? And your time? This pair looks pretty much in pleasure!

We in the United States could learn much from Sweden's government. A government-subsidized parental leave would run the same gamut of feelings and derision that Sweden endured but Sweden's looking to the long-term advantages of making parenthood an important part of the societal norm is what is lacking in the US. All of our "fixes" are short term, unfortunately. We are constantly tinkering with our programs instead of looking long-term at what will influence change. Good for you, Sweden!

It's refreshing to hear that, at least in other countries, parenthood is acknowledged as being work (even if it's work that you love!) and important work at that. I'm looking forward to the day that the U.S. catches up and provides adequate leave time and support for both parents.