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Here's a real exchange between myself and my sister. I am a pro-life evangelical Christian. My sister has a liberal political bent and is pro-choice. We were raised Catholic. She does not practice any faith now.

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I had set up a pay per view movie that we had to watch when I made Mom hang up. Have you seen Juno? It’s a great antiabortion movie. Take care.

Love,

K

Haven’t seen Juno. We saw Bella though. I thought you were pro choice?

P

Did I tell you about Bella? Did you like it? I am prochoice but I also am pro adoption and other alternatives that would place the baby in a safe and loving environment. So I think these movies make the case for alternatives way better than someone standing and yelling at young girls as they go into an abortion clinic. It is such an emotional issue on so many levels. I’m sure I have said to you that of the kids we get in Head Start about 60% are born to teenage moms. They start out in an economic deficit that most do not recover from so children are greatly affected by that. And it is often the least capable people who keep babies based on the antiabortion rhetoric. What bugs me the most about that rhetoric is that it displays no understanding of what happens to a baby when it’s not aborted and grows poorly parented and poor in every way. TaDah! I step down from the soapbox!

Love,

K

You told us about Bella. That was such a good movie. I agree that adoption is better than the young girls keeping their babies.

I don’t mind your venting. I wish the two sides would talk more. I can’t agree that the possibility of economic hardship is a reason to kill the baby. I think most of the world wouldn’t be here (even you and me. Look at grandma and grandpa.) if that criteria was applied across the board.

I think much of the problem goes back to the “sexual revolution” that said sex is always a good thing for whoever and whenever. It’s obviously not. The consequences on our society have been enormous. The abortions, the inability to commit, the breakdown of the family, VD, AIDS... At least the rules Mom and Dad grew up with were designed to protect women and children. And they worked. Our culture has no rules anymore except maybe that my personal happiness is more important than anything else.

I used to work on a pregnancy hotline in CA and have seen the other side — the reckless lack of regard for human life some of the girls/women have. I had one girl tell me, “If I can’t have it, then no one else can either.” Another older unmarried woman said she couldn’t have the baby because of a “bad back”. Obviously not too bad to have sex.

So there’s my sermon.

Love,

P

Well this is a fun discussion. I have to go to a meeting but I do have to say that the sexual revolution only brought the behaviors that have been going on for centuries into the spotlight. Back alley abortions and sexual activity have been going on forever. It was just something no one talked about. Look at the difference between John F Kennedy’s affairs and how they were treated by the media vs. Clinton and Monica. I think you are so right about the breakdown of the family and a lack of social mores but none of this is new. We just know about it now.

K

Of course the bad behaviors have always been going on. The rules existed because of the bad behaviors. Just like laws exist but people break them anyway. But does that make the law bad?

I think the difference with the sexual revolution is that it said the rules re: sexual behavior were bad and should be abandoned. Those rules protected marriages, women and children. Look at the difference is the number of divorces in Mom’s siblings vs our generation. The sad thing is that children have suffered the most.

P
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This is as far as we got. Life got too busy again or the topic was too intense. I'm not sure.

If you think this is worth posting on your site, let me know, and I will ask my sister's permission. -Pam

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