This program came along at a very critical time for me. I had been dating a wonderful man for about 4 months and our relationship was very good, except for one thing. I didn't realize that I was doing it at the time, but I had a bad habit of trying to get him to predict the future. I would worry about how our relationship will look in 6 months, one year or 10 years. When I would talk to him about it, he would become uncomfortable. It eventually caused him to feel so pressured that he walked away from the relationship.
This program helped me realize that no one can predict the future and it is pointless to ask someone to do so. I realized that each moment I spent focusing on that impossible-to-predict future was a moment of wasted time in the present. And worse, it created "bad" memories that would linger in the past.
I learned that the best use of my time is to focus on the "now" so that it will be pleasant and meaningful. These "now" moments will then accumulate to create the future that I desire. So, I've begun to do just that: I try to stay focused on the "now" in every relationship I have: my kids, friends, coworkers and relatives.
The best part is that after explaining my new-found attitude and approach to that wonderful man, he decided to give our relationship another try.
Thanks, Krista, for having Jon Kabat-Zinn on your program to share the Science of Mindfullness.
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