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How about a discussion on developing a healthy relationship to the "self" or "ego"? Not just getting rid of it -- it can be useful, and in any case will always be there -- but not taking it "personally." For example, as in Japanese Zen, the experience of "kensho": the self is seen as just another tool, the way a carpenter sees a hammer or saw; but neither defines him. Another model might be addition and recovery: if friends and family of an alcoholic try to do an intervention, the alcoholic might say "But I am my bottle; you just don't love me for who I am." Of course the alcoholic isn't really his or her bottle, just as we are not our "self" or "ego"; in each case, it's just the addition talking. And in each case, it's not a matter of getting rid of one's ego, nor all the bottles of vodka in the world, but of not taking it personally. It's also true in poetry: Keats talked about "Negative Capability," the poet's ability to set aside his ego in order to write. Or Yeats said "All that is personal soon rots, unless it is packed in ice or salt."