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When I worked with people who had dementia, I realized that they had achieved the one thing the rest of us strive for: Living in the moment. Therefore, I learned that my job with family and clients was to make each moment we had together the best it could be. They feel love, but can't express it, and they can't talk about their feelings about dying or even about living. Touch is one sense that's with us to the end; simple hand and foot massage conveys love by touching in a loving way.
Play music that you know she enjoyed--not your preference but hers; use any remaining sense of smell by using her old favorite lotions for the massage.
Because she is "in the moment," when death comes she will be ready, more ready than you are.
May you find your journey together a blessing to both of you,