This might not make much sense, but perhaps you might try sitting with your mother without having any thoughts in your mind about how things should be, or how you'd like them to be, or what you think you ought to do. Just sit with her in a state of emptiness---which is to say, with complete inner stillness. Let go of any desire for the situation to be a certain way. Then, as you sit with her in this state of complete inner stillness, just pay attention to what arises in you and then say or do whatever spontaneously feels right, just in that moment. Just allow yourself to respond to the needs of the moment, without any pre-existing agenda. You might find that magic happens.
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