I listened to this show with great interest. I had never heard of Frances Kissling before. What a relief to hear from someone else that there are many sides of the abortion issue.I had an abortion when I was 19. I was working hard in college, had a part-time job and a very dysfunctional homelife. I also had one boyfriend.In looking back I believe that I, who had always been so careful about birth control, got pregnant because the directions I received with my diaphragm were incomplete. To be concrete, I had not been told to make sure my cervix was covered.I never considered having the fetus for a moment, and yet I knew I was deeply ambivalent. At the beginning of the procedure I started to cry. The nurse held my hand very tightly. The doctor said,"What's the matter with her?" And the nurse just said, "It's her first."I am now 54 and have never had a child. I was always ambivalent and undermotivated. Time passed; I developed a chronic illness; and in a way I was relieved because I thought it would be irresponsible and selfish to have a child while ill (I still believe that). However, that baby was in my dreams for many years and I am now able to acknowledge the sadness and sense of loss that has always been there. But I will emphasize that I still believe in all women's right to choose.
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