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Hi Sarah, I do not know anything about you, your age, or your marital status. I have been married 8 years, and have 2 daughters. I believe that unfortunately some couples have grown to places where the relationship is unfixable, but those are the least. I have had very difficult times in my marriage, and the reasons I am still married is not romantic love, but a sense of commitment and responsibility for my actions. As a man, it would have been very easy for me to say "i"m not in love anymore, I'm out of here" like the supposed 50% has done. It was my commitment to not let my wife and daughters live a life of poverty, the belief that is better for children to have 2 parents under the same roof, and that it would be easier for me to be a better person if I stay in the marriage. Thanks to that, my marriage is still a work in progress, with the chance to becoming better every day.
It was said in the conversation that women are born to be mothers, but men need help. The idea of romantic love, the false 20th century belief that one must always feel in love and be happy all the time, it is not helpful for men. When I was in the depths of sadness and anxiety, many nights laying in bed wondering why life has not developed the way I have planned, the idea of romantic love always drove me to the conclusion that I should abandon the marriage to pursue happiness in other women. I also want no pity from anybody because I was sad and anxious with my marriage, because almost all men, straight or gay, have been through that, and unfortunately, many have chose to follow their belief of love as instant gratification.
I am glad you have heard this show, because it means you care. At this moment comes to my mind the interview with the Dalai Lama about happiness, or to a guy who translated Rumi, as podcast to expand on the notions of love and happiness.
I hope you don't take my response as aggressive or insulting. I see myself in your comment, and I just want to be of help.