This talk helped with one of the most gratifying "breakthrough" moments of many months. I have been on a 4-month leave of absence from my work as a psychotherapist, resting and reviewing recent life events and attempting to figure out how to avoid the kind of "lifeless" living that created my current health predicament—melanoma cancer. In the span of 5 years between another difficult event, a traumatic brain injury, and this recent cancer diagnosis, I had started a private practice, given two very personal talks about my brain injury to conference attendees, created a 10-minute video for one of these talks, and started a blog called The Expert Within about healing though cultivating and connecting with inner wisdom. I had worked to the point of exhaustion, wanting to make my life and it's attendant adversities mean something. Now that I needed to carefully sort out where to put my energy, I looked at my work with clients, my creative ventures, and my attempts to communicate about important alternative healing methods, and nothing spoke to me because nothing seemed to have spoken to others (on any grand scale). Even as I write this, I see that I was viewing the mixed feedback through a perfectionist lens, one of many characteristics which Ms Brown listed as signs of her own difficulties with vulnerability.
I had a sense that I needed to disconnect my sense of satisfaction in my projects from other's feedback, but didn't know how to do it. The take-away message from the unedited interview with Ms Tippett and Ms Brown is that life's joys come from this very disconnection, which in turn comes from positive self-regard. And self-regard comes with practice. When I love, I tell myself I am love. When I write, I tell myself I'm worthy of being heard. When I speak my truth in front of a large group without trying to defend against criticism, I tell myself that my truth has merit, even if it is not a match for what most people think. When I create art which doesn't garner much excitement from others, I'm only doing what all artists do—working without guarantees of success, but, instead, from the pure joy of creating.
As others commented, it's the unedited version of this podcast which allowed for the depth and exploration of personal experience of the two which allowed me this breakthrough. You have my greatest gratitude and respect.
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