When I heard Sherry's words about not knowing how to be alone leaving us only with loneliness, I felt they were quite precious. Immediately, I turned to my Skype window and inserted them into my small message box at the top. I keep this box filled with thoughts that move me. I then turned to an online image file to find an accompanying picture. The scores of visual images that came forward were virtually all people -- mostly young -- in the throes of loneliness, being alone being equated with despair. I found one or two images only which communicated that any joy or peace could be found with oneself.
My thoughts turned to my own challenges with coming home to myself in this country. Almost five years in Thailand, where people's politeness with one another allows a great deal of personal privacy, allowed me to find a certain inner space which fractured upon returning to America. I find that sitting through the amount of time that it takes simply for the nervous system to quiet...daunting. The efforts of the bulk of the media -- not to mention that our politicians have no problem driving the collective psyche to the brink about whether there will be a working government -- seem to be intent on supporting fear and hypervigilance. It is no wonder that young people desperately need to be "in-touch" with as many of their friends as possible, simultaneously when possible. There is a perceived safety net there. How do we show them that the ultimate safety, support and guidance is found within? As a transpersonal psychologist, I find this to be a central question for the young and not so young as well. The answer is not something we can so much tell to others as one we must model for others.
I deeply appreciate your work, Krista, and that of all of your team. On Being is a true light source.
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