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Each era in human history has been marked by changes imposed or enabled by the advance of technology.

When I was in the Navy, we were stationed overseas in 1976 and had no telephones where we lived.

'Paying a call' on someone was the only means of communication and social interaction. This was not as easy or convenient as calling someone on the phone, and required a lot more time, thought and planning to coordinate meetings. Although a somewhat slower way to live (we were in our early 20s at the time), over time we found this way of life to be a more enjoyable and fulfulling way of interacting with our our friends and associates.

We looked forward to each meeting with a great deal of anticipation, and savored the companionship of our friends in the time we had together.

Of course, this was THE way of life for everyone before telephones came into widespread use in the early 20th Century, so we were in a sense going back to how Americans lived in those days. We enjoyed our experience immensely, and remember those days with great fondness.

It is not by coincidence that we have maintained many of these intimate friendships over 35 years' of time since.

Upon our return to the States two years later in 1978, we of course reverted to regular use of the telephone for our needs. While this was more convenient in every way, it was also accompanied by some sense of a loss of the intimacy and joy of social interaction that we had felt before.

Our lives resumed at a somewhat faster pace, and we adapted to it.

Clearly , there is no right or wrong here. Maybe only the message that, whatever the enabling technology we adopt for our use, the joy and deep satisfaction of intimate personal interaction and friendship should not be sacrificed along the way.